In which I write things.

1 Sep

Into the Dalek

I have some complicated feelings about this one.

There were a lot of small details that were a bit troubling.

Clara’s comment to Danny (why is all of tumblr calling him Mr. Pink when he has a first name?) about “killing people and then crying about it afterward” was wildly insensitive.  And I get that most people Clara’s age who don’t know any combat vets might make a flippant comment like that without thinking about it, but Clara is not most people.  She’s a teacher.  As a teacher, she should know better than to pick on anyone about crying (even just hypothetical crying).  She should know better than to shame people for their emotions or to question the validity of their emotions.  And if she does slip up and say something insensitive, she should apologize as soon as she realizes that her comment had upset him, rather than saying it was meant as a joke and then asking him out.

That said, I really like that the new character is a math teacher (for entirely selfish reasons).  I also liked the way that Clara got the Doctor to reexamine his conclusions (“That is not what we learned today”) because it was the first time we got to see her acting like a teacher.  Rather than handing him the answer, she made him get there himself, which means first that he will be more comfortable with what he’s learned than if the source were external, and second that he’ll remember this lesson better in the future.

I am uncomfortable with the idea that this Dalek was a good Dalek because it wanted to commit the “right” kind of genocide.  The Doctor I fell in love with uses killing only as a last resort, and wouldn’t support anyone who uses killing as their first response, no matter who the enemy was.

Related to that, the line about the Doctor being a “good Dalek” just really didn’t sit right with me.  It was reminiscent of the Dalek in “Dalek” telling the Doctor that he would make a good Dalek, except that the tone was completely different.  In 2005, the Doctor was telling the Dalek to kill itself because of his hatred for the Daleks, and the Dalek was trying to hurt him by pointing out the similarities between the Doctor’s behavior and the Daleks’ violence.  This time, it felt like it was meant as a compliment?  ”You thought I was a good Dalek but you were wrong because that was just a malfunction.  You are a good Dalek because your disdain for what the Daleks do is not a malfunction.”  It doesn’t seem like the type of thing that anyone should expect would be comforting.

And then we’ve got the Doctor’s response to Journey’s request to come with him.  ”Here’s a list of all your great qualities, but the fact that you’re a soldier means you’re beyond redemption in my eyes.”  I get that Nine and Ten were decidedly uncomfortable with the military, and one of the big complaints about Eleven was how comfortable he was barking orders at soldiers, but I don’t think that fixing that means that the Doctor should automatically condemn anyone who has ever picked up a gun.  The Doctor always gives you a chance, and Journey had already demonstrated that she wasn’t the type to blindly follow orders or to shoot first and ask questions later.

Aside from these complaints, I did think this was among the better episodes we’ve gotten since season 5.  We got the Doctor dealing with a moral dilemma and we got Clara being genuinely helpful (and having a life outside the Doctor!  and being a teacher!) AND when Clara called the Doctor out on his bullshit, he actually listened.  This season seems to have potential.

  • 17
28 Aug
On Gender Norms and Celibacyliz011.tumblr.com

say-yestosparklingvaginas:

mrs-sardonicus:

capricornicis:

say-yestosparklingvaginas:

You know what, I’m really sick of all these gender stereotypes, but what I’m really sick of is this apparent need for guys to get laid as soon as they can, but in girls celibacy is revered. But if a guy decides to stay a…

Just to warn you, I probably still didn’t get my point across so I’ll probably come off as very ignorant, but I’m trying my best to understand.

First of all I don’t know much about sexual attraction, and I didn’t mean to offend anybody, so I’m very sorry about that.

And the point is not gender first and personality second. I don’t know where you got that idea. It’s like, a man who is straight is attracted to females, not people of the same gender. I don’t mean they can’t find men handsome, or get a crush on one, they just prefer females more. And it’s not that they don’t love the female for her personality, it’s just that they are attracted to a certain gender.

Like, I’m straight. I can find a girl pretty, but I’m attracted to males. 

People who are panromantic are able to love anyone, regardless of what they identify as. I meant that Severus is not constrained to a certain gender. He’ll love the person regardless.

And you’ve got it all wrong. I’m not making Snape panromantic because he’s asexual and that’s the only way it works. I understand now that I worded it wrong, but I do not have any problem with any sexuality and I do not have any assumptions about them either, nor am I trying to say that it’s not possible for Severus to be anything but panromantic. I realize now what you mean, but like I said that was more due to poor wording, rather than any implication on my part. Like I mentioned in the OP, I have trouble writing my thoughts down eloquently.

And I understand that their sexuality has no bearing on their romantic preferences. 

To clear it up, I got the idea because Snape, if his love for Lily is romantic, he loves her not because she’s a girl, but because she was only one to show him kindness. He would have loved her whether she was male or transgender, and I get the feeling he would do that with anyone who was nice to him. So he doesn’t necessarily have to be panromantic, but it’s simpler to decide without delving into all the sexualities and romance and all that complicated stuff.

I know what you mean, and I feel horrible for making assumptions that Snape has to be panromantic, but as I said above it just simplifies everything.

Like I said, I’m not an expert and I probably shouldn’t be coming up with stuff like this because I’ll just end up offending someone sooner or later. Next time I’ll try to do more research.

At least you weren’t rude, like some people on Tumblr. Thank you for that.

You are using “straight” as shorthand for “both heterosexual and heteroromantic,” and you seem to be assuming that because that is how you identify and how most people identify, sexual orientation and romantic orientation always fit together neatly like that.  This is not the case.

Here’s what it would look like for a man to be heterosexual and biromantic: He gets turned on by the idea of having sex with a woman (and not by the idea of having sex with people who are not women), but he is comfortable dating either women or men.  He might be comfortable having sex with men he dates even though he’s not turned on by the idea, because hey, it still feels good and it makes them happy.  Or maybe he’s just comfortable having a romantic relationship that doesn’t involve sex.  The point is that the fact that he is most turned on by the idea of having sex with a woman doesn’t mean he only dates women.

Here’s what it would look like for a woman to be pansexual and homoromantic: She gets turned on by the idea of sex with men, women, nonbinary people, whoever, but she’s only really interested in actually dating women.  She might have all sorts of great fun sex with all sorts of great fun people, but when she thinks about who she might want to settle down with or take home to meet her parents, she only ever thinks about women (even when thinking in the abstract rather than considering whether she wants that with this specific person).  Why might she have this preference?  It could be for any number of reasons, or for no reason at all.  The point is just that a preference exists.

So, what if Snape were asexual and heteroromantic?  He wouldn’t be really interested in having sex with anyone, but he would feel most comfortable dating women.  Which means that if James, rather than Lily, had been the one to show him kindness, he would still probably be great friends with him and James would probably be the only person he feels safe around, but he wouldn’t have any desire to turn that friendship into a romantic relationship.  He would probably still love James, but it wouldn’t be romantic love.

Reblogged from say-yestosparklingvaginas
Originally from say-yestosparklingvaginas

  • 37
27 Aug

On Gender Norms and Celibacy

mrs-sardonicus:

capricornicis:

say-yestosparklingvaginas:

You know what, I’m really sick of all these gender stereotypes, but what I’m really sick of is this apparent need for guys to get laid as soon as they can, but in girls celibacy is revered. But if a guy decides to stay a virgin, suddenly they are pathetic and weak. You know who died a virgin? Sir Isaac Newton.

Yeah, you know, the guy who came up with the law of universal gravity?

So you don’t need to have sex to be awesome, smart, and overall a nice guy.

And just for this reason I will go by the headcanon that Snape is a virgin. Why? Because I’ve seen people claiming that he doesn’t need to be so pathetic and that he should just get laid in response to a fic where he was, in fact, celibate. It disgusts me that the only quality people seem to view in men is their ability to have sex. What if they don’t want to? Are they suddenly weak?

Not only that, but Snape is a highly private person. He would not want to get intimate with any random person he meets on the street. He’s a pretty emotional guy, though he tries to hide it, and seems like the type that would want to only have sex with someone he has an emotional attachment to, and we all know the only one he did care for is dead, and arguably we’re not even sure if his love for Lily is romantic or platonic.

Plus, it’s possible he just doesn’t care about sex at all and has no time for it. Or, you know, he’s asexual and isn’t attracted to anyone sexually. I’ve been playing with the idea that he’s asexual and panromantic, because if his love for Lily is romantic, he loves her because she’s Lily, not because she’s a girl. He would happily love her even if she was male or transgender, and there doesn’t seem to be any lust coming into it, despite what people think.

So thank you; all you people generalizing genders have made me want to make one character go against the norm, just because I fucking can.

(To be honest, I have trouble putting my thoughts into words. I mean, I can imagine what I’ll say is pretty eloquent, but when I actually try to write it down I fail miserably.

I know a lot of you are probably thinking that I’m a horrible person for forcing my beliefs onto a fictional character, but my beliefs wasn’t the original reason for this headcanon. I already thought his personality made it very likely that Snape wouldn’t go around getting intimate with just anyone, but I was going to go with the idea that did lose his virginity at some point just because it would make the least amount of controversy, and it wasn’t even like I would make a point to mention his state of celibacy. It wasn’t until I saw someone yelling at an author for making Snape celibate and that he wasn’t some pathetic guy lost on Lily that I got angry, and just to spite that person and the idea that not having sex at least once makes a man weak, changed my headcanon.)

Hey, as one of the two Snape fans who is asexual, I like this post. 

Apparently Sir Isaac Newton had a gay relationship (and historically, he was far from a nice guy… admirable yes) but I suppose there’s no absolute proof either way.  But fair point.  And Headcanon accepted; this view makes a lot of sense, imo.

In general, I agree with the points in this post.  However, there is one line that is bothering me:

I’ve been playing with the idea that he’s asexual and panromantic, because if his love for Lily is romantic, he loves her because she’s Lily, not because she’s a girl. He would happily love her even if she was male or transgender, and there doesn’t seem to be any lust coming into it, despite what people think.

I am bothered by the implication here that if he is asexual and he is experiencing romantic attraction, then he must be panromantic.  People can have romantic preferences in the absence of sexual preferences, or romantic preferences that don’t line up neatly with their sexual preferences (for example, there is a post going around tumblr somewhere about the difficulties of being a bisexual is more sexually attracted to one gender but more romantically attracted to another).

The reason given for this assumption, that “if his love for Lily is romantic, then he loves her because she’s Lily, not because she’s a girl,” seems to assume that people who are not panromantic love people for their gender first and their personality second?  I am pretty sure that for most people, that’s not how it works.  A person’s gender and personality both contribute to how you perceive them and to your emotional response to them, regardless of whether their gender is one that you might be sexually attracted to.  It is possible for an asexual to get butterflies when talking to a pretty girl and never get that same type of excitement from talking to a guy.

Like, if you want to headcanon a panromantic Snape, go for it, just please don’t make it because that’s the only way it makes sense to you for an asexual person to experience romantic attraction.

Reblogged from professormcguire
Originally from say-yestosparklingvaginas

(Source: say-yestosparklingvaginas)

  • 37
26 Aug

thespacegoat:

zacksplosion:

gimmegrimmy:

thecityofpawnee:

nerdmodeactivated:

tea-in-the-tardis:

bakuraryou:

OK SO IN ENGLAND THIS IS WHAT A RUBBER IS

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AND SOMEONE ON MY DASH JUST MENTIONED PUTTING A ‘RUBBER’ ON YOUR PENIS AND

I GOT REALLY REALLY CONFUSED

THIS IS WHAT WE CALL A RUBBER IN AUSTRALIA TOO. WE FEEL YOUR PAIN.

SAME WITH NEW ZEALAND.

We don’t have those in America because we don’t make mistakes.

image

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THAT WAS ONE TIME

HE WAS ELECTED TWICE.

A rubber would have prevented that.

Reblogged from revisitnormal
Originally from hikaribakuras-deactivated201304

  • 603381
23 Aug
pbnpineapples replied to your post:Deep Breath
Clara squicks me out period idk why. I think her and Amy are so…..feminine-ly presented but not in a good way. …. Also I really liked Clara’s costume

The Victorian dress or the skirt/sweater combo from the beginning and end?

I think the issue with both Clara and Amy is basically that they’re underdeveloped, so they’re basically just cute spunky flirty twenty-somethings who swoon over how clever the Doctor is without ever feeling like actual people.  In terms of “feminine-ly presented but not in a good way,” possibly you are referring to how submissive they are?  (And I can hear people shouting “But they talk back!  They are sassy!”  No, actually, sassy backtalk doesn’t mean they aren’t being submissive toward him if they end up always doing what they’re told and never seriously standing up for themselves.)

  • 1
23 Aug

Deep Breath

Link to the episode if you haven’t seen it yet.

Spoilers below the break.

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  • 8
23 Aug
straw-berrygashes:

liz011:

vxpo:

tin-d0g:

xeansan:

camerongale:

drakensberg:

ttthegingerqueer:

Just filled out my health insurance forms!

yeah!!! fucking around with health insurance forms!!!!

I hate when people complain about “oh health forms are stupid they want my biological sex instead of my gender!!!!” or “they only have male or female!!!”
There’s a reason for that, you dumb fucks, and they’re referring to biological sex
Different health risks are present in different sexes, and whatever gender is in your head does not change the fact that if you were born female, you have a higher risk for certain cancers and osteoporosis, and if you were born male you have a higher risk for heart disease and often a shorter lifespan than a female.
In other words, your biological sex is an important factor in health and health insurance, and your special snowflake status doesn’t change that.

Coulda said it nicer but it’s true; it’s about health.

No. There gets a point where nice doesn’t work. There’s too many stupid ass angsty teens on here that are gonna get themselves seriously hurt or sick because they wanna be a special fucking snowflake. Lemme tell you a thing. Doctors don’t give a flying fuck what you identify as. All they want to know is do you have two X chromosomes or an XY? Because cancer and lupus and certain medicines don’t give a flying fuck what pronouns you use. This is about your fucking LIFE. stop being angsty for TWELVE SECONDS because when you’re in an ambulance or going into cardiac arrest or whatever the situation may be, it’s ESSENTIAL that you get your head out of your ass long enough to tell them your BIOLOGICAL SEX that you were BORN WITH. It literally may save your life.

This is so important.

Except that we don’t actually know how much those differences are due to the genetic differences between male and female bodies and how much they’re due to other factors, like hormone differences or lifestyle differences, because nobody has bothered researching it.  So if you’ve got a trans man who is XX and has a vagina but has had a full hysterectomy and is taking testosterone, is it better at that point to treat him “like a woman” based on his biological sex, or should he be treated “like a man” because that more closely matches his hormone profile?  Or would a different kind of approach be best?  These are the types of questions you’re ignoring when you insist on the importance of ignoring gender identity in favor of biological sex.
(Also, they could literally just turn this into two questions: 1. What is your biological sex?  2. What is your gender identity?)

Yeah but this isn’t about how you identify (excluding trans who are taking estrogen/testosterone) like they need to know what you are at the moment biologically. You feel?

I understand that understanding biology is important for doing medicine correctly.  My point is just that “what you are at the moment biologically” can be more complicated than just male or female.  Even if we’re limiting it to the biological sex you were born as, there should be an option for intersex.  And, again, gender identity can be relevant because people (including those outside the gender binary) might be taking hormones and that would affect how their bodies react to some medications.  Standardized forms like this should include questions about gender identity and hormones to give doctors a more complete picture of what’s going on inside their patients’ bodies.

straw-berrygashes:

liz011:

vxpo:

tin-d0g:

xeansan:

camerongale:

drakensberg:

ttthegingerqueer:

Just filled out my health insurance forms!

yeah!!! fucking around with health insurance forms!!!!

I hate when people complain about “oh health forms are stupid they want my biological sex instead of my gender!!!!” or “they only have male or female!!!”

There’s a reason for that, you dumb fucks, and they’re referring to biological sex

Different health risks are present in different sexes, and whatever gender is in your head does not change the fact that if you were born female, you have a higher risk for certain cancers and osteoporosis, and if you were born male you have a higher risk for heart disease and often a shorter lifespan than a female.

In other words, your biological sex is an important factor in health and health insurance, and your special snowflake status doesn’t change that.

Coulda said it nicer but it’s true; it’s about health.

No. There gets a point where nice doesn’t work. There’s too many stupid ass angsty teens on here that are gonna get themselves seriously hurt or sick because they wanna be a special fucking snowflake. Lemme tell you a thing. Doctors don’t give a flying fuck what you identify as. All they want to know is do you have two X chromosomes or an XY? Because cancer and lupus and certain medicines don’t give a flying fuck what pronouns you use. This is about your fucking LIFE. stop being angsty for TWELVE SECONDS because when you’re in an ambulance or going into cardiac arrest or whatever the situation may be, it’s ESSENTIAL that you get your head out of your ass long enough to tell them your BIOLOGICAL SEX that you were BORN WITH. It literally may save your life.

This is so important.

Except that we don’t actually know how much those differences are due to the genetic differences between male and female bodies and how much they’re due to other factors, like hormone differences or lifestyle differences, because nobody has bothered researching it.  So if you’ve got a trans man who is XX and has a vagina but has had a full hysterectomy and is taking testosterone, is it better at that point to treat him “like a woman” based on his biological sex, or should he be treated “like a man” because that more closely matches his hormone profile?  Or would a different kind of approach be best?  These are the types of questions you’re ignoring when you insist on the importance of ignoring gender identity in favor of biological sex.

(Also, they could literally just turn this into two questions: 1. What is your biological sex?  2. What is your gender identity?)

Yeah but this isn’t about how you identify (excluding trans who are taking estrogen/testosterone) like they need to know what you are at the moment biologically. You feel?

I understand that understanding biology is important for doing medicine correctly.  My point is just that “what you are at the moment biologically” can be more complicated than just male or female.  Even if we’re limiting it to the biological sex you were born as, there should be an option for intersex.  And, again, gender identity can be relevant because people (including those outside the gender binary) might be taking hormones and that would affect how their bodies react to some medications.  Standardized forms like this should include questions about gender identity and hormones to give doctors a more complete picture of what’s going on inside their patients’ bodies.

Reblogged from straw-berrygashes
Originally from ttthegingerqueer-deactivated201

  • 155593
23 Aug
vxpo:

tin-d0g:

xeansan:

camerongale:

drakensberg:

ttthegingerqueer:

Just filled out my health insurance forms!

yeah!!! fucking around with health insurance forms!!!!

I hate when people complain about “oh health forms are stupid they want my biological sex instead of my gender!!!!” or “they only have male or female!!!”
There’s a reason for that, you dumb fucks, and they’re referring to biological sex
Different health risks are present in different sexes, and whatever gender is in your head does not change the fact that if you were born female, you have a higher risk for certain cancers and osteoporosis, and if you were born male you have a higher risk for heart disease and often a shorter lifespan than a female.
In other words, your biological sex is an important factor in health and health insurance, and your special snowflake status doesn’t change that.

Coulda said it nicer but it’s true; it’s about health.

No. There gets a point where nice doesn’t work. There’s too many stupid ass angsty teens on here that are gonna get themselves seriously hurt or sick because they wanna be a special fucking snowflake. Lemme tell you a thing. Doctors don’t give a flying fuck what you identify as. All they want to know is do you have two X chromosomes or an XY? Because cancer and lupus and certain medicines don’t give a flying fuck what pronouns you use. This is about your fucking LIFE. stop being angsty for TWELVE SECONDS because when you’re in an ambulance or going into cardiac arrest or whatever the situation may be, it’s ESSENTIAL that you get your head out of your ass long enough to tell them your BIOLOGICAL SEX that you were BORN WITH. It literally may save your life.

This is so important.

Except that we don’t actually know how much those differences are due to the genetic differences between male and female bodies and how much they’re due to other factors, like hormone differences or lifestyle differences, because nobody has bothered researching it.  So if you’ve got a trans man who is XX and has a vagina but has had a full hysterectomy and is taking testosterone, is it better at that point to treat him “like a woman” based on his biological sex, or should he be treated “like a man” because that more closely matches his hormone profile?  Or would a different kind of approach be best?  These are the types of questions you’re ignoring when you insist on the importance of ignoring gender identity in favor of biological sex.
(Also, they could literally just turn this into two questions: 1. What is your biological sex?  2. What is your gender identity?)

vxpo:

tin-d0g:

xeansan:

camerongale:

drakensberg:

ttthegingerqueer:

Just filled out my health insurance forms!

yeah!!! fucking around with health insurance forms!!!!

I hate when people complain about “oh health forms are stupid they want my biological sex instead of my gender!!!!” or “they only have male or female!!!”

There’s a reason for that, you dumb fucks, and they’re referring to biological sex

Different health risks are present in different sexes, and whatever gender is in your head does not change the fact that if you were born female, you have a higher risk for certain cancers and osteoporosis, and if you were born male you have a higher risk for heart disease and often a shorter lifespan than a female.

In other words, your biological sex is an important factor in health and health insurance, and your special snowflake status doesn’t change that.

Coulda said it nicer but it’s true; it’s about health.

No. There gets a point where nice doesn’t work. There’s too many stupid ass angsty teens on here that are gonna get themselves seriously hurt or sick because they wanna be a special fucking snowflake. Lemme tell you a thing. Doctors don’t give a flying fuck what you identify as. All they want to know is do you have two X chromosomes or an XY? Because cancer and lupus and certain medicines don’t give a flying fuck what pronouns you use. This is about your fucking LIFE. stop being angsty for TWELVE SECONDS because when you’re in an ambulance or going into cardiac arrest or whatever the situation may be, it’s ESSENTIAL that you get your head out of your ass long enough to tell them your BIOLOGICAL SEX that you were BORN WITH. It literally may save your life.

This is so important.

Except that we don’t actually know how much those differences are due to the genetic differences between male and female bodies and how much they’re due to other factors, like hormone differences or lifestyle differences, because nobody has bothered researching it.  So if you’ve got a trans man who is XX and has a vagina but has had a full hysterectomy and is taking testosterone, is it better at that point to treat him “like a woman” based on his biological sex, or should he be treated “like a man” because that more closely matches his hormone profile?  Or would a different kind of approach be best?  These are the types of questions you’re ignoring when you insist on the importance of ignoring gender identity in favor of biological sex.

(Also, they could literally just turn this into two questions: 1. What is your biological sex?  2. What is your gender identity?)

Reblogged from straw-berrygashes
Originally from ttthegingerqueer-deactivated201

  • 155593
22 Aug

Did I mention my cat plays fetch?

  • 7
21 Aug
tony-the-intelligent-goon:

ashiibaka:

Science.

I can’t tell what my favorite part is, but it’s either
scientists wasting budget and time to see if ants count their steps
the idea to put ants on stilts
there had to be a guy who made ant stilts and put them on the ants
confused ants

The person who made the ant stilts was probably a grad student, and odds are that this ant study is only tangentially related to what they actually want to study once they finish school.
Can you imagine the conversation with other grad students at the bar?
Friend 1: I have the WORST headache from the nail polish fumes.  I can’t believe I spent nine hours today just labelling deer bones.Friend 2: My big important assignment today was going to Staples to buy as many different types of tape as I could find to test their shear strength.Friend 3: I somehow got paid for spending the day on tumblr documenting how people use gifs.This kid: I made ant stilts.Friends: …Friends: Let’s get you another drink.

tony-the-intelligent-goon:

ashiibaka:

Science.

I can’t tell what my favorite part is, but it’s either

  • scientists wasting budget and time to see if ants count their steps
  • the idea to put ants on stilts
  • there had to be a guy who made ant stilts and put them on the ants
  • confused ants

The person who made the ant stilts was probably a grad student, and odds are that this ant study is only tangentially related to what they actually want to study once they finish school.

Can you imagine the conversation with other grad students at the bar?

Friend 1: I have the WORST headache from the nail polish fumes.  I can’t believe I spent nine hours today just labelling deer bones.
Friend 2: My big important assignment today was going to Staples to buy as many different types of tape as I could find to test their shear strength.
Friend 3: I somehow got paid for spending the day on tumblr documenting how people use gifs.
This kid: I made ant stilts.
Friends: …
Friends: Let’s get you another drink.

Reblogged from revisitnormal
Originally from memewhore

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